HOW TO IMPACT VALUES IN TEENAGERS (part 2)

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It’s so good to have you on this Tuesday with Teenbaseetoh.

Just as I promised last week, today I will be sharing tips on how to instill values in Teenagers. But before we dive into that, did you take time to write down your core value?  Have you also asked yourself if you would be proud to have your child (ren) pick up those values?  If you haven’t, it’s not too late to do so.

Angela Duckworth, an American academic, psychologist and popular science author, in one of her articles, says that  ‘‘as young people grow up, they develop a sense of right and wrong and what is fair and just, from watching the world around them and the actions of the people they love and trust. This helps them to make wise choices and encourages them to contribute to making the world around them a better place”.

 

Be the Model  

This is one simple way of instilling values on teenagers. You simply act the role you want them to play. If you want your teens to be truthful, hardworking, then you should be seen displaying such traits. You shouldn’t be caught lying or lazing around while expecting others to get your chores done for you.

Don’t be the ‘‘do as I say not as I do” model. Children and Teenagers are best at imitating act then listening to commands or instruction.

 

Praise them

While growing up, there was this Aunt of mine I lived with, whenever I filled up all the water reservoir (drum) with water for our domestic use, she would praise me with words and that always made me happy, the next day I would go and an extra mile by filling all the buckets and bowls in the house with water. 

This is simple, whenever you catch your teenagers doing something good, praise them, it will simply make them happy and also make them do more.  Most of us are so bad that we find it difficult to commend our children whenever they do something good, but we are always so quick to reprimand them when they go wrong.

 

Engage them

Engage your teens in the good acts you do. When you go to your place of worship, go with them. When you are doing the chores at home, make them do some too. When you are having the community sanitation, let them join in and do something. This way, you are teaching them those values without having to spell it out to them. With these they would learn to take up those responsibilities even in your absence.

 

Take advantage of situations /ask them questions

Don’t always do the talking, give teens the opportunity to think and analyze situations by themselves. As teenagers, their ability to know what is right from what is wrong is more developed compared to when they were kids.  

Let’s say you go on an outing with them and you see another teenager yelling at an elderly person, take advantage of that situation to ask them their view about that scenario. Their reply will give you feedback of their sense of value and morality.

 

In order not to bore you, I will like to stop here today. I promise to share more tips on how to instill values in teenagers next week.

 Kindly share ways you feel values could be instilled in Teenagers in the comment section. Until next week Tuesday, Be good and stay safe.

 

 

         

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How To Impact Values On Teenagers

Hello there!

It’s another beautiful Tuesday with Teenbaseetoh. Today we are going to be taking a look at HOW TO IMPACT VALUES ON TEENAGERS. (  PART 1)

 

The kind of society we want tomorrow will be determined by the kind of teenagers we are breeding today. Teenagers are the next generation of leaders for the society; it is therefore incumbent on us all as teachers, parents, families, neighbors and adults in general to make it a deliberate and conscious efforts as to how we raise the teens of today.

Wikipedia defines a teenager or a teen as a person who falls within the ages of 13 to 19 years old. The word ‘teenager’ is also often associated with adolescence.

What are values? I would like to share a simple comprehensive meaning of values I found on a blog post. It states that values are basic and fundamental beliefs that guide or motivate attitudes or actions. They help us to determine what is important to us. Values describe the personal qualities we choose to embody to guide our actions; the sort of person we want to be; the manner in which we treat ourselves and others, and our interaction with the world around us. They provide the general guidelines for conduct.

Having stated what values are, so where exactly do these values come from?  We pick up values from our religious and cultural believes, major parts our values are picked up from our parents and friends, and also from our relationship and experiences with others.

These values we pick up from several people and believe are what form the basis of our character and our core values are the result of our behavior.

Now that we know what values are, I would to ask you these questions: what are your core values? Would you be proud if your child (ren) pick up your values and live by them?

Do you find it difficult answering those questions? If yes, I will urge you to sit down and define your own core values and then ask yourself “will I be proud if my child (ren) picks up these values”.

While I leave you to answer these questions,  I will see you next Tuesday when I will be sharing ‘Tips on how to instill values in Teens’ with you. Until then , STAY SAFE!

The Peculiar Panacea 2

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Trust you are doing great.

So today, I am going to be unveiling the category of people who require a whole lot of attention in the society.

As a result of the various issues confronting the society today, especially in the aspect of moral decadence, several individuals and organizations both governmental and non governmental have stood up to reform the society in ways they can.

It is observed that a larger number of these social reformers pay more attention to aspects like social/political injustice, marital issues, entertainment among other areas and fortunately, there lots of religious propagators and teachers. 

However, a larger percentage of challenges experienced in the society today is as a result of the orientation and idealogy the adults of today had picked up as teenagers. 

 Teenage stage is the intermediary stage between childhood and adulthood and so the most delicate stage in human development. During childhood we are often taught and guided on what to do and not to do, but as teenagers we begin to develop a sense of self independence and therefore you to  make and take  decisions on our own, which implies that the attitudes we exhibit as adults were picked up at that stage.

All these points to the fact that teenagers are meant to be paid more attention.

Parents and adults generally require a delibrate and conscious effort in training teenagers. We need to pay attention to and not neglect their physical growth, spiritual knowledge, educational development, psychological balance and  emotional stability.